How to flirt
Life is too short to worry about things. So, when it comes to declaring how you feel to a crush; I say go for it!
I understand it can feel intimidating, but unless you ask, the reality is you could potentially lose the chance of being with your soulmate.
Of course, you may be fearful of the thought of rejection, but in all honesty, it’s a natural part of dating. Not everyone is going to be attracted to you, but you will become resilient over time, I promise.
You have a crush and you want to woo them, but you’re a little unsure about how to proceed. Never fear, Sukh is here.
If you need a helping hand, here are some fantastic tips to get you started.
Eye contact is key.
A little look can go a long way. It’s a subtle way to show you are connected, interested and engaged in what your crush has to say. Keep your focus soft as you gaze at them. However, don’t unnecessarily stare, that’s just weird.
Be a good listener.
Showing you’re attentive is a great way to let your crush know you care. Actively listening is also a great way for you to learn about them and get to know them better. As much as you may want to talk, once in a while, it’s a good idea to sit back, let them talk and feel that they are being acknowledged.
Ladies, it’s ok to make the first move.
Yes, read it again! Making a move is not solely a man’s role. It’s completely acceptable for a woman to express her feelings, in fact, many men find it attractive when women do! If you’re into someone, just go for it. You’ve got nothing to lose and possibly much more to gain.
Ask about their hobbies.
Ask your crush about their hobbies. They’ll start to share things they feel passionate about and go into detail. It’s a perfect opportunity for you to share how you admire their interests and you can see it lights them up. Not only will they smile, but appreciate you took the time out to ask.
Body language is a big giveaway.
Body language has a direct correlation with flirting. By taking notice of subtle cues, you will be able to understand your crush’s comfort level around you. Pay attention if they sit or stand directly opposite you, perhaps playful arm touching or even prolonged eye contact. These can be subtle hints that your crush maybe into you too.
Don’t get sucked into the ‘friendzone’ myth.
If you flirt with someone and they under no circumstances reciprocate, under no circumstances do you sulk and think that you have been friendzoned! Not everyone is going to feel the same as you. You have to either move on or genuinely accept them as a platonic friend. Don’t wait around hoping they will change their mind. No action is still action.
Respect when someone says ‘no’.
The number one rule of dating and relationships has to be to always show respect. If someone does not mutually feel the same or has not reciprocated your advances, you have to respect their decision and take a step back with grace. Consistently pursuing someone who has said they are not interested isn’t romantic, it’s 100% disrespectful.
Don’t be afraid of rejection.
Opening up to someone about how you feel may take a lot of courage. A great way to overcome this is by boosting your confidence. Find things that make you feel empowered and practice talking to different types of people. Just don’t be so hard on yourself. Not everyone is going to feel the same, so get used to feeling this way, but most importantly, dust yourself off and get back out there again.
Finally, I want you to step back and applaud yourself. Putting yourself out there, making yourself vulnerable and making your intentions clear takes a lot of guts. However, practice makes perfect, so I encourage you to try out these tips. After all, you want to get better at flirting and it will only be a matter of time before you find that person you mutually connect with.
Happy Flirting x
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